Bothered

Okay this shouldn't bother me but it does... terribly. A parcel from Sam's grandmother arrived in the mail last week full of Christmas presents. There were four or five wrapped presents inside. One for Daniel and I and the rest for Sam. Nothing for Kamryn. Sam's grandmother knows Kamryn; and has just as much contact with her as she does with Sam. Sure she has no investment in her but... really? She's a seven year old girl for crisssakes. Kamryn is always excited when Nana calls (and Nana has no interest in talking with her). When she saw all the packages she was equally excited. I subtely kept her away and she has no ida that none are for her but I felt so bad for her. Would it have been that much of a stretch to throw something small in for her?

Daniel and I certainly don't need another box of chocolates (her standard Christmas gift for us) so she could have used that money. Why send something for us and ignore Kamryn?

Okay - now Kamryn's birthparents won't send anything for Sam and that doesn't bother me as much. Our relationship is much more arm's length. They don't really know Sam. Kamryn's birthdad has met him once. Oh and they aren't sending boxes and boxes of presents either. They send one gift and normally a gift card for restaurant that we use as a family.

Maybe it bothers me because traditionally Sam's grandmother has included something small for Kamryn and this time there was nothing (I don't think its an oversight; more the culmination of a trend I've been noticing). She always sends a card for Sam as well that ignores Kamryn. Maybe it bother me because Kamryn asks for very little and Sam is very "all about me","what have you given me lately", "what are you giving me next" (drives me a little batty and I don't know how to discourage this sense of entitlement he has.)

I just don't get how you can send anything for one child in a family and completely ignore the other one. I'm annoyed. I don't want to be annoyed over Christmas.