Helpless

Can you spare a thought, a moment, a prayer for Meredith over at Pithydithy?

I have never met Meredith but I’ve “known” her for many years. As we both fought infertility and grew our families we've exchanged e-mails, blogposts, Christmas cards. I consider her a friend and have always looked forward to actually meeting her. She’s a strong, interesting, intelligent woman and she was living an enviable life with two gorgeous sons (her absolute dream) and a sweet and doting husband.

Last week, while on a family vacation the family was involved in a horrific car accident that took the life of her beloved Mr. Pithy. I can’t stop thinking of her and how she will go on. She will go on because she has two special boys who need her. She will endure because she is a strong woman who is looked up to and admired. She will persevere because that’s what people do. But I can’t imagine. It’s going to be very hard. In a split second her entire universe changed...

I'm so angry for her. I'm so confused.

I feel, as I guess most people do in situations like this, completely helpless. My brain can’t comprehend what happened. My heart is searching for a way to fix it. I don’t even feel I can lend real support from so far away... from the other side of a computer. For a little while we planned to go to the funeral but unfortunately our passports expired two weeks ago (to get new ones on short notice is crazy expensive, plus the expense of going to Vermont is just not something we can handle right now) and more significantly, I know that there are others – people that Meredith really knows and loves – that will be there to support her. Still I can’t stop thinking of her and her precious boys and so I turn to my trusty blog; where I’ve always turned in times of despair to talk it out in a post.

But if you can spare a moment of thought for Meredith and her little family …